Ⅵ. 阅读与回答问题(每题2分,满分10分)
根据短文内容,回答下列问题。
One of the challenges in communication is saying "no" when you need to. Often we promise to do things even when we should refuse. This leads to stress when we break our promise,and we then feel bad for not keeping our word and lose trust for not keeping our promise.
|Do you say "no" to your friends?|
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|Charmer:Never. I come from India. For me,refusing people is difficult,especially when they are my friends. My parents also told me that refusing the elderly is considered disrespectful and discouraged.|
|Judy:No,I don't. I am afraid that every time I do this,I will disappoint someone,make them angry and hurt their feelings. The person might think I am unkind or rude.|
|John:Yes,I do. My value does not depend on how much I do for other people. And learning to say "no" has been one of the best things I have done for myself.|
Learning how to say "no" is a great thing you can do for yourself. You won't let your work overload,and you'll have time to do what really matters to you. Remember that the best way to learn how to say "no" is to practise more. But in saying "no" you still need some skills. The U-S-A method works very well here. It stands for:
Understanding:It is important to show the other persons that you understand the inconvenience they will experience. If they don't feel your understanding,they could become upset and difficult. Show understanding with a sincere statement(表述).
Situation:Explain exactly why you will have to refuse that person's request.
Action:It is acceptable to tell the person whom you are refusing,what you can and will do.
(3) Tell him/her what you can help(1) Show your
understanding

(2) Explain the
situation
In most cases,when you show empathy(同情)with an understanding statement,explain the situation,and tell the person what you do,you will comfort that person. You will be effectively and politely saying "no" without causing anger and unhappiness.
1. How may people feel when they break the promise?
They feel bad and lose trust.
2. Who hasn't said "no" to friends?
Charmer and Judy.
3. What's the best way to learn how to say "no"?
To practise more.
4. Please fill in the blanks.
(1)
understanding
(2)
situation
5. What do you think of the U-S-A method? Why do you think so?
It's effective. Because it helps refuse requests politely while maintaining relationships.